Navigating the Intimacy Maze with Marriage Counseling in Temecula, Ca

As you step into the challenging world of infertility, we want you to know you're not alone. We get it—the ups, the downs, and all those twists that throw a curveball at your relationship. It's a real emotional roller coaster, and we're here to ride it out with you.

For couples dealing with infertility, keeping that feeling of closeness can be tough. When we say intimacy, it's not just about the physical stuff; it's about the emotional and sexual bonds that tie you two together. This blog? We're diving deep into these struggles and chatting about how couples therapy can be your go-to in rediscovering that awesome connection you're after. So, let's talk about it!

If you’re ready to get help, please reach out today! We can help you with in-person marriage counseling in Temecula, CA and Riverside, CA. We also offer virtual counseling to any resident in California.

The Emotional Roller Coaster of Infertility: Couples Therapy Temecula Ca

For many couples dealing with infertility, maintaining intimacy can be challenging. When I say intimacy, I am not just referring to sexual connection - though I will get to that here shortly. When I say intimacy, I am referring to closeness, which can be through emotional, physical or sexual connections. For couples dealing with infertility, it is normal that we lose intimacy or closeness emotionally, and physically or sexually. 

In my previous blogs on this series, I discussed the roller coaster of emotions we go through with the grief and stress from infertility and how those emotions can make it challenging to stay emotionally connected to our partner.

As a short summary, humans not only manage our emotions differently from each other but we also do not move through grief and stress linearly or at the same time.

Where maybe one person is wanting space, the other may be wanting to talk it out together. Where one person wants to fight for fertility treatments the other wants to sulk and give up trying. It is so common to feel emotionally disconnected from our partner, because how do you stay connected when we can feel or be so different? 

The Physical Disconnect: Intimacy Beyond Emotions

In addition to emotional disconnection, many couples experience difficulty maintaining physical or sexual intimacy. For one, many people will have higher libido or desire for sexual intimacy when they feel emotionally close to their partner. So naturally, when emotional connection decreases as mentioned above - it is like a domino effect that then takes down your sexual intimacy. Secondly, sexual intimacy can be a physical reminder of infertility as our private parts are the literal biological systems that can (or cannot) create life. Lastly, for some couples, sexual intimacy may have become a performative action you and your partner mostly or only did as you were “trying”. It can be hard to reorient yourselves back to allowing sexual intimacy to be just for pleasure and/or connection between you.

Finding Hope with Couples Therapy in Temecula, Ca

The good news is that there is hope. You do not have to wait until all the dominos have fallen for you and your partner to get help. In couples therapy, we can help you and your partner pick up the pieces of your relationship that have been knocked down by infertility so that you can feel close again. We have had couples who came in feeling so alone and unsupported to coming out on the other side feeling like this was the start of a new love story. We have seen couples go from a dry season of affection and physical touch to feeling like desire and passion was reignited. Please reach out to us if you’d like to feel that connection in your relationship again!

At Inland Empire Couples Counseling we offer the best marriage counseling we can! Our couples therapists are trained in helping couples heal from infidelity, substance use in relationships, childhood trauma, communication skills, as well as providing the LGBTQIA+ community with pride counseling. We have online couples counseling in California. We have couples therapy in Riverside, CA. We also have marriage counseling in Murrieta CA or the Temecula Valley. Please reach out for help by clicking the button below to schedule a free 15 minute consultation with our Intake Coordinator.

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