Can a couples therapist help if we’re on the path toward divorce?

Your relationship feels like it’s filled with more bad days than good ones lately. You’ve just had a fight and the word “Divorce” spilled out of you before you even knew what you were saying.

You’re not sure if that’s what you want but you know you can’t go back and pretend like it wasn’t said. You might think that couples counseling can’t help you because that’s only for couples who know they want to stay together, right?

Well, yes and no. Enter Discernment Counseling, which is different from normal couples therapy in that we don’t assume you want to stay together and instead we help you see all your options so you can make a decision knowing you’ve really thought it all through.

You can read more about the difference between couples therapy and discernment counseling, here.

And you can also check out the advantages and disadvantages of discernment counseling, here.

In this post I’ll be discussing how a couples therapist can help your relationship if you’re considering divorce.

Why is it important to have a therapist when you’re considering divorce?

You’re in a relationship that’s hit a bit of a rough patch or maybe it’s been a struggle for a while. One of you is thinking about going down the divorce road, but there’s this question hanging in the air — should you give marriage counseling a shot first?

That’s where a couples therapist, specializing in discernment counseling, steps in. They’re like the expert guide helping you navigate through this tricky situation.

So, first things first, they’ve got this superpower called neutrality. That means they don’t take sides or push any agenda. It’s all about helping you figure out what you want, no strings attached.

Then there’s empathy — they’re like emotional superheroes, creating a safe space where you can spill your thoughts and feelings without worrying about being judged.

And the ace up their sleeve? Active listening. They’re pros at tuning in to what you’re saying, helping you both explore what’s been working and what’s been missing. This process isn’t just about saving the relationship; it’s about understanding yourselves better, and whether you decide to mend things or part ways, you come out with a clearer picture of who you are and what you’re after.

It’s like a heart-to-heart with a relationship guru, guiding you toward making choices that truly fit you.

Discernment Counseling in Murrieta CA

Watch the video below for more info on how discernment counseling with a therapist can help your relationship on the brink.

At Inland Empire Couples Counseling we offer the best marriage counseling we can! Our couples therapists are trained in helping couples heal from infidelity, substance use in relationships, childhood trauma, communication skills, as well as providing the LGBTQIA+ community with pride counseling. We have online couples counseling in California. We have couples therapy in Riverside, CA. We also have marriage counseling in Murrieta CA or the Temecula Valley. Please reach out for help by clicking the button below to schedule a free 15 minute consultation with our Intake Coordinator.

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