5 Tips for Better Date Nights
Oh yeah! Remember dating?
You used to do that together. If you’ve gotten out of the habit, it’s time to rekindle!
Have regular date nights.
A weekly date with just the two of you is ideal. When ideal isn’t possible, make sure you have dates regularly. As much as you like your friends or the other parents at your kids’ sports, for your relationship to stay strong, you need time together that’s just for you.
Make this time sacred.
Don’t cancel last minute. Don’t ask to reschedule, start late, or cut it short because something else came up. If you were single and dating, you wouldn’t do that to your date. Don’t do it to your spouse/partner now. You both deserve better.
Be your best self.
Don’t come to your date and spend the whole time complaining about your work, your kids, your parents, or talking about the bills and home repairs. You’re a couple, so those conversations need to happen at some time; date night is not that time. Put that stuff aside and be your fun, charming self. Be the people you each fell in love with.
Have fun.
Do things you both like to do. Don’t expect your partner to have a great time being your caddy if they just don’t like golf. Take turns with planning what you’ll do or where you’ll go, remembering that staying home is a great choice as long as you’re keeping all these other tips in mind.
Talk to each other.
A movie, a massage, or even a monster-truck rally can be fun sometimes, but they don’t provide much opportunity to talk to each other. Date nights benefit your relationship by giving you regular times to connect and to nurture your friendship.
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