Feeling Connected to Your Partner: The Basics of Attachment in Relationships
Consult a Therapist Series
You know that magical feeling where you feel connected to, loved by, safe with, and accepted by your partner? That's attachment! And did you know there's science behind it? And even things you can do to consciously create more of that wonderful feeling in your relationship?
This has been the source of a lot of hope for our clients: knowing that there are things they can do to create more connection with their partner. Feeling close isn't something that just happens--YOU CAN CREATE IT!
In this video Marriage and Family Therapists Rebecca Williams, LMFT and Stephanie Gross, AMFT will you an introduction to attachment theory and will talk about how to feel connected to your partner.
Feeling Connected:
What is an attachment bond? - How you react to close relationships now based on early relationships with your care givers
Causes of an insecure attachment - We develop insecure attachments when we don’t have our needs met or don’t have consistent care givers growing up
Anxious/Preoccupied attachment - Those with a more anxious attachment seem more clingy. They are constantly looking for their partner
Avoidant attachment - Those with avoidant attachments will shut down, put up walls, be overly independent, never want to be seen as needy
Fearful/Avoidant attachment - Those with fearful/avoidant attachments will be more ambivalent, confused, want to be close to their partner but closeness scares them
Secure attachment - Those with secure attachments express their emotions (good and bad), trust others, lend and ask for support. Having secure attachments make us more independent and secure in ourselves.
Was watching this video a homework assignment from your therapist?
Put this skill into practice before your next session. We’ll want to know how it went. If you had great success, we’ll celebrate with you. If implementation was rough, we can help you figure out what went wrong and get you back on track.
